追女生框架
追求时期框架
1.大原则一:出发点尽量去吸引女仔,而不是追
很多男生其实都困惑于这个问题:为什么对一个女生关怀备至,在女生有问题的时候都能伸出援手,但是却总沦为“备胎”身份。
对于女人来讲,更容易受到
- 生存价值(社交价值,财富等)
- 基因价值(帅气,衣着,外形,身体健康,sex)
- 情绪价值(幽默感,沟通能力)的吸引。
彼此对于价值的认可,才是撩妹的基础,如果对一个女孩子,你既不能提供生存价值(没有生活的宅男)也不能提供情绪价值(不会说话的直男癌),那么即便你把所有真心都奉上,也毫无用途。
所以少年,学着做一个闪闪发光的人吧。
还有原则上先吸引,而不是去追,但并不是说不去追,有得女孩子天性比较害羞,尽管她很喜欢你,她也不会主动找你,所以需要你破冰,走出第一步,去帮助她,关心她(这一招女孩子很吃
鉴于90%的女孩子都是怂狗,不可能直接当面搞你。当你是个极具吸引力的人的同时,也要给女孩子接触你的机会,比如参加一些社团活动之类的社交,女孩子才能有机会估计找找你问东问西。
2.大原则二:互动的时候,根据对方是否有兴趣来决定是否要继续
所有的撩妹技能建立在对方给予的反馈之上,不管是你自以为多么高明的手段,get不到对方传递出来的情绪,在对方排斥互动的时候,一味自嗨都是超级不礼貌行为。
举个简单例子:
有一天你很想跟一个喜欢的姑娘聊天,你分享了一下当下状态开启话题
“我圣诞节在跟朋友聚会,你呢?”
如果对方的反馈是
“哈,我也在跟朋友开party呢,你是参加了什么活动呀?”
这表明妹子目前比较想要跟你交流,可以畅快互动了。
如果对方的反馈是
“恩,祝玩的开心”
那接下来不管你有啥高超的撩妹聊天套路,这次就别用了。
这种你很优秀,她此时此刻,她就是不喜欢你,甚至你说多了她会觉得有点恶心。
这种原是不配的情况就要今早立场。如果你是比较喜欢她,可以留一段时间给她,如果她还是沒有改观,就转身离开吧
3.约会的时候,能“带领”她
女人超级反感没主见的男人,如果你约一个妹子出来,一定要规划好这次行程。
如果你约一个妹子出来,还要一脸懵逼得去问她“咱们待会儿去哪儿逛啊?”相信我,这会是你们最后一次约会。
以及,吃饭的时候,不要傻乎乎的去问“我们去哪儿吃,你决定吧,我都行。”提前百度地图大众点评蚂蜂窝等一众软件装上,查查约会地点附近有哪些靠谱的美食小店,带着她去探索,女孩子会比较欣然享受这种被照顾的感觉,而不是感觉像是带了个不认路的儿子出来逛。
进阶技巧:
带女生做一些新奇有趣,且同是你可以教她的项目:比如射箭,diy油画,diy糖果,保龄球等等,一方面女孩子跟你约会的时候,有好玩儿的互动项目可以避免冷场,另一方面她在这个场景中对你会产生一部分依赖感。
4.学会拍照(选修
讲真,不用你去买徕卡等高端设备,用手机也可以,简单了解一下拍照的构图技巧,以及如何用一些修图软件去后期(此处推荐一下一个手机修图软件-snapseed,相当强大)
不要把你身边的漂亮姑娘拍成风景照了,真心对不起人家的颜值和凹出来的造型,简单学点摄影技巧,女孩子永远喜欢能把她们拍漂亮的男人
5.聊天的时候,不要抱着解决问题的思维(选修
因为男人的思维多是比较偏向于逻辑化和理性化的,所以聊天的时候很容易去抱着“解决问题”的思维,从而让话题变得拘谨乏味
女生聊天的时候多是自由的,发散的,想到哪儿说到哪儿的,欢乐有趣的。
举两个例子大家就体会到了
女生:今天好冷啊
男生:记得多穿点衣服
女生:……… 哦,好
女生:我还在加班,好累
男生:别着急,慢慢来
女生:……… 哦,好
在如上两个例子中,男生已经完全把女生的“话题”当作“问题”来处理,从而迅速终结了这个话题。
以及最经典的例子
女生:“我感冒了”
男生:多喝热水
女生:…… 喝你@#
试问大家,一个女生冷了,不知道应该多穿衣服么,她感冒了,不知道多喝热水么,显然这个答案是否定的。
那么,她跟你交流的目的其实是“分享感受”。
如果你要撩她,获取好感,请挑动对方的感受。
比如:
女生:我昨天走了一天,脚很疼
错误方式:“早点回家休息”
正确方式:“来,我帮你揉揉,哎呀,你脚好臭(手动嫌弃表情)”
“你才是大臭脚,我脚明明很香(手动傲娇表情)”
女生:今天加班,好累(抱怨情绪)
错误方式:“别太辛苦,照顾好自己”
正确方式:“休息日还加班,你老板太没人性了吧,虐待小动物啊。走,下班带你去吃小龙虾去“
6.学会制造情绪反差
没有一个女人能拒绝“浪漫”和“惊喜”,这是撩妹的大杀器。
而所谓的“惊喜”在心理学上的机制就是“出现由低到高的情绪反差”。
比如:
出去约会的时候,她本以为又是老套的吃饭逛街看电影,缺没想到你准备了一场烟花秀
维持关系框架
1,送礼物
聊胜于无,送比不送好。
平时尽量送溢价的,比如:比较好的衣服,情侣装,情侣鞋
比较贵的,如手机,电脑,相机,频率可以一年一次,建议不要经常,容易拉高女孩子的心理预期
化妆品,太傻了,不送,让她自己买
2,探针探底
女孩子的心思比较细,有时候我有些事情以为糊弄糊弄就过去,没想到她还记在心上。
但她们心细不是我们不放纵的理由,试问,如果按照她们理想中那样对她,那她岂不是要上天了?
分一下时间周期,追她的时候,肯定要对人好一点,刚刚追到也稍稍维持一下热度,毕竟刚刚追到就探底,太激烈了,女孩子心理落差太大。
综上所述,在追到她的后面一段时间,开始逐步探底,让她明白你也是有些做得不会太好,让现实落地,让她接受人无完人
有些女孩子可能会难过,会想她可能沒有那么爱我,但这是正常的,让她有个自我接受的过程,虽然她很难受,你看着她难受你也很不爽。但相信我,这个是她自我成长,认清事实的过程。
3,稀缺效应
关于“稀缺原则”在浪漫吸引力中的作用,还有一种表现叫做“闭店效应”(closing time effect),即“酒吧打烊前的女孩最好看”。2010 年,研究者发现,无论是男性还是女性,都会在酒吧临近打烊时觉得异性更有吸引力,而这一现象与酒精浓度的变化无关。他们分析说,这可能和稀缺原则有关:随着酒吧快要打烊,机会变得越来越少,因此他人会显得格外具有吸引力。
因此,当这个人、这份感情对你来说不是轻易就能得到的时候,你总会觉得它弥足珍贵,更想得到。父母的反对,现实的阻隔(比如两人异地、对方已有家室),经济条件或身份地位的悬殊等,都可能会使你美化这段感情,更想要去争取。
创造更多的稀缺条件。第一次干嘛。。
4,亏欠羁绊
为女人买单的时候,通常会让女人产生一种负债感。
5,承诺角色羁绊
正向:给她一点承诺,稳定她的信心。
反向:给她一个角色,让她自己衍生出对我们的支持和承诺。
6,信息轰炸
洗脑式全方位灌输。用偏差的全社会客观来改变她的主观。
7,共同战线
做一些通过你们合力完成的事情,加强羁绊。
通用屁话
1,在干嘛
2,看看x
3,x(动词)
4,强调“我的”,“我们”代替我
5,简单x两下
6,跨时空执法
7,有我在
8,土味情话
9,怎么回事,什么情况,什么说法
10,但没关系,因为我是陈冠希
Framework of pursuit
Principle 1: do your best to attract girls instead of pursuit.
many men get confused about this problem that's why I can't get girls' attention even though I very care about her. Because they don't notice that main point girl really need, that's :
survival value(social value, wealth)
gene value(handsome, clothing, shape, healthy, sex)
emotional value(humor, communication skill)
Recognition of others' value is the foundation of pursuit. To pursue a girl, if you cannot provide survival value, emotional value, what you are done is nothing. Therefore, learn to be a shining person.
Also, I value the principle of attraction although, I don't mean we totally give up the pursuit. You know, some girl they are very shy, sometimes even though they crush on you, you don't ask you actively. Alright, you still have to get the first step and built a relationship with each other. In other words, just to give an opportunity that girl can get close to you easily like participate in some events.
Principle 2: march is a matter.
Some girls can not get your ideas, despite what operation you are doing. For this situation, the best way is to get the next one, don't try to waste your time on that. If you really like her, I recommend some time to maintain it Probation.
principle 3:show your leadership when dating.
women are very satisfied with men who have no opinion. you would better plan to schedule this plan before you guys are going to go out. lead her to explore new things, girls like these feeling someone cares her instead of taking care of a son. try to do some new items like archery, painting. those items are not easy to get the atmosphere cold down, and it can also relate you to these scenes.
principle 4(optional): take a beautiful photo.
Honestly, you don't have to buy an advanced machine. First of all, you should learn some composition skills of taking pictures. Simply learn some photography skills. Girls will always like men who can take pictures of them.
principle 5: don't always think about solving problems when chatting.
Basically, men' idea is rational and logical, it turns out that will get an idea of "problem-solving", which makes the topic boring. In contrast, girls more like to talk about where and when they are thinking, fun, and interesting.
principle 6: create emotional contrast.
No women can refuse "romantic" and "surprise", this is a big killer for them. Surprise in the psychological mechanism is called "emotional contrast". She thought she is going to shopping and movies when dating, don't expect you to prepare a firework show.
1, girls and gifts
It's better than nothing. Usually try to give premium ones, such as better clothes, a couple of shirts, a couple of shoes.
For those expensive, such as mobile phones, computers, cameras, it is recommended not too often, It is easy to raise the psychological expectation of girls.
For those what you don't know, just too silly, let her buy it herself.
2, understand the bottom
girl's thoughts are more careful. Sometimes I think that's small things but she can get it forever. Frankly, their carefulness is not the reason for us to limit it. If we treat her as they ideally do, how come!
3, shortage
Potencially, you will always think it it precious when this person or this realtionship is not easy for you to get as parental opposition, realistic barriers, economic conditions, personal position probably beautilfy this relationship. to make some shortage of your guys, what you need to do is making more "first time" for you.
4, trend
Brainwashing in all directions. Change her subjectivity with the biased objectivity of the whole society.
5, debt
it usually makes wonman feel in debted when you are paying for a woman.
6, promise
positive: you can give her some promise to make her confident.
neagtive: give her a role which make her increasing support antomatically and internally.
7, same
togethor to do something to let you look like in a some line.