人生最艰难的真相

 

I met my ex-girlfriend on Tinder. We matched, we met, we were together for almost two years. We broke up two years ago and I haven’t been with anyone since. What I learned is that even when you feel ready, you can’t skip to the end.

You cannot find love by looking for it.

The moment you start searching, you’ve already twisted yourself into a pretzel that’s nothing but a poor copy of the awesome you you actually are. That’s why online dating rarely works.

Love starts with loving yourself. It’s one of those “when the student is ready, the teacher appears” kind of things. Like attracts like.

And if you don’t think you’re awesome, work on it. Do something for yourself. Go to the gym. Start a business. Buy a book. Paint. Whatever gets you closer to being someone you would want to date yourself. The only person you are guaranteed to spend the rest of your life with is you.

Make sure you’re in great company.

 

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 when you learn to love yourself, you attract people who are attracted to you loving yourself.

 

The last line conveys too narrow a meaning of love.

The beauty of the flowers does attract the bees but what keeps the bees coming again and again is the nectar which the flower 'gives' and not 'keeps'.

The endurance of love lies in giving love and not just being in love with your own self.