how to be a successful man ?

We all have our own ideas about what success means to us. To some, it means money. To others? Freedom and creative expression. We all agree, however, that certain types of men have just ‘got it’.
成功对我们意味着什么，我们都有自己的想法。对一些人来说，它意味着钱。对于其他人? 自由和创造性的表达。然而，我们都同意，对某些人来说就是“拥有它”。

You know who we are talking about. The men who flit in and out of our lives – friends, perhaps, or co-workers, maybe even just an influential celebrity – who just exude something powerful that we can’t quite explain.
你知道我们在说谁。那些在我们生活中进进出出的男人，也许是朋友，也许是同事，也许只是一个有影响力的名人，他们身上散发着某种我们无法解释的强大力量。

These people regularly become rich and famous; the heads of huge companies or writers of critical acclaim. We watch them in awe, impressed by their individuality whilst simultaneously oblivious to the similarities they all share.
这些人经常变得富有和出名;大公司的老板或评论界的作家。我们敬畏地看着他们，对他们的个性印象深刻，同时却忽视了他们所有人的相似之处。

Here’s the kicker: the truth is, successful men share much more in common than you realize. In fact, once you scratch away the veneer you start to see the same characteristics time and time again.
关键是：事实是，成功男人的共同点比你想象的要多得多。事实上，一旦你刮掉了饰面，你就开始一次又一次地看到同样的特征。

Want to know what these characteristics are?
想知道这些特征是什么吗？

Follow the 10-step guide below and chart your own path to becoming a successful man.
遵循下面的10步指南，规划你自己成为成功人士的道路。

​The Ultimate 10-Step Guide on How to Be a Successful Man
如何成为一个成功男人的终极10步指南

Laser focus in on your mission and avoid distractions to keep you motivated
专注于您的使命，避免分心，保持您的动力

A successful man knows why he is here and why he does what he does. Any man who does not share this mental focus and intensity is at an instant disadvantage. People will not take him as seriously as he would like. Women will not think of him as attractive as they could.
一个成功的人知道他为什么在这里，为什么他做他所做的事情。任何一个不具备这种精神专注力和强度的人，都会立即处于不利地位。人们不会像他希望的那样认真对待他。女人不会认为他有吸引力，因为他们可以。

​To be a successful man in this world you need to focus in on a mission. Now, this could be anything.
在这个世界上要想成为一个成功的人，你需要专注于一项使命。现在，这可能是任何东西。

You don’t need to go to an expensive psychologist or read too many self-help books to figure it out. Just figure out what you like and then chart a path to be the very best at it.
你不需要去看昂贵的心理医生或阅读太多的自助书籍来找出答案。只要弄清楚你喜欢什么，然后制定一条道路，成为最好的。

Avoid unnecessary distractions, stop procrastinating and don’t stop pushing until you get there.
避免不必要的干扰，停止拖延，在你达到目标之前，不要停止努力。

The next thing you must do is...
接下来你要做的是...

Lack self-doubt and you’ll be swarmed with opportunities
缺乏自我怀疑，你就会充满机遇

What separates the doers from the talkers? Yes, skill plays a part but that part is a lot smaller than you might think.
是什么把实干家和空谈家区分开来？是的，技能起了一定的作用，但那部分比你想象的要小得多。

What really makes the difference is the little voice inside our head, which is constantly planting seeds that we will reap later.
真正使我们与众不同的是我们头脑中的小声音，它不断地播下种子，我们将在以后收获。

What is your voice saying to you? Is it sowing seeds of confidence or seeds of doubt? This might seem like a minor point but it really isn’t.
你的声音在对你说什么？它是播下信心的种子还是怀疑的种子？这似乎是一个次要的问题，但它真的不是。

Over time, our mental dialogue compounds and becomes a hugely influential force on our actions. The successful man knows this and doesn’t waste time in doubting himself.
随着时间的推移，我们的心理对话变得复杂，并对我们的行为产生了巨大的影响力。成功的人知道这一点，不会浪费时间怀疑自己。

Develop a strong resolve
下定决心

Whenever we attempt something new or daring we will almost certainly come up against an obstacle of some sort.
每当我们尝试新的或大胆的东西时，我们几乎肯定会遇到某种障碍。

When we are learning how to be a successful man we know this intuitively, and we harden our defenses prior to contact. Inside, we are committed wholeheartedly to the eventual goal, no matter what life throws at us.
当我们在学习如何成为一个成功的人时，我们直觉地知道这一点，并且在接触之前加强了我们的防御。在内心深处，我们全心全意地致力于最终目标，无论生活抛给我们什么。

Make sure the mission you choose in step one is strong enough to develop a resolve of its own. Once you commit 100% you will be surprised how quickly things can click into place.
确保你在第一步中选择的使命足够强大，足以形成自己的决心。一旦你100%的投入，你会惊讶于事情能如此迅速的到位。

Take pride in your sick work ethic
以你病态的职业道德为荣

As much as the unsuccessful masses love a ‘get rich quick’ story it almost never happens that way.
尽管不成功的大众喜欢“快速致富”的故事，但这种情况几乎从来没有发生过。

The truth is, you must work harder than everybody around you to be the most successful. By that we mean be the hardest and smartest worker in the room, the city – hell, even the world if you have it in you.
事实是，你必须比你周围的人更努力才能成为最成功的人。我们的意思是做房间里最努力、最聪明的工作者，城市地狱，甚至世界上最努力、最聪明的工作者，如果你有这个能力的话。

You will reach the top with this mindset, and that’s that. Take pride in the work ethic that makes other people sick. You will reap the rewards forever.
带着这种心态，你会到达顶峰，仅此而已。为让别人生病的职业道德感到自豪。你将永远收获回报。

Be relentlessly persistent and you’ll eventually reach your goal
坚持不懈，你最终会达到目标

One major requirement of a disgusting work ethic is the development of persistence.
令人厌恶的职业道德的一个主要要求是培养毅力。

You must crush everything in your path if you are to reach your goals in the shortest time possible. Grow a thick skin.
如果你想在尽可能短的时间内达到目标，你必须粉碎你道路上的一切。脸皮厚一点。

Allow only that which is positive and constructive to enter and stay in your mental space.
只允许那些积极和建设性的东西进入并停留在你的思维空间。

Become persistent and selective. You will then find you have all the time in the world for what you want to do. This is the way success happens.
变得执着和有选择性。然后你会发现你有世界上所有的时间去做你想做的事情。这就是成功的方式。

The ability to get along with people whilst achieving their goals
与人相处的能力，同时实现他们的目标

It doesn’t matter who you are – no one gets there alone. In order to become the successful man you want to be you must develop the skills that allow you to get on with other people.
你是谁并不重要-没有人能独自到达那里。为了成为你想成为的成功人士，你必须培养能让你与他人相处的技能。

These include patience, understanding and compassion. The world’s highest-paid comedian Kevin Hart has actually stated that his ability to ‘be cool with everybody’ is the main reason for his extraordinary success.
这包括耐心、理解和同情。世界上收入最高的喜剧演员凯文·哈特（Kevin哈特）实际上曾表示，他“对每个人都很酷”的能力是他非凡成功的主要原因。

Perhaps even more important than these three is the sincere desire to help and serve people. When you approach others from a place of integrity you automatically assume the aura of a successful man.
也许比这三个更重要的是真诚的愿望，帮助和服务的人。当你以一种正直的态度接近别人时，你会自动地承担起一个成功人士的光环。

Consequently, they will be much more open to you and your requests. This skill of indirect persuasion will be useful throughout your journey.
因此，他们会对你和你的要求更加开放。这种间接说服的技巧在你的整个过程中都很有用。

Practice humility because you will need all the help you can get from the people around you.
练习谦卑，因为你需要从你周围的人那里得到所有的帮助。

In close relationship to integrity is the ability to be humble. Many men who we would have once considered successful have fallen into the pride trap. Remember that ‘pride goes before the fall’.
与正直密切相关的是谦逊的能力。许多我们曾经认为成功的人都落入了骄傲的陷阱。记住“骄者必败”。

The moment you think you know it all you start losing. People will stop responding to you in a positive way – if not immediately then at some point in the near-future.
当你以为你知道一切的时候你开始失去。人们会停止以积极的方式回应你--如果不是立即，那么在不久的将来的某个时候。

Once pride creeps in your days of success and personal satisfaction are numbered. Guard against it always, no matter how much of a successful man you become, and you will continue to spiral upwards in achievement and happiness.
一旦骄傲在你心中蔓延，你成功的日子和个人的满足感就屈指可数了。无论你成为一个多么成功的人，始终要警惕它，你将继续在成就和幸福中螺旋上升。

Gain organisational skills because time equates to money
获得组织技能，因为时间等同于金钱

One of the less glamorous traits of the successful man are his impeccable organisational skills. This goes hand in hand with having a mission and a game-plan.
成功人士不那么迷人的特点之一是他无可挑剔的组织能力。这与使命和游戏计划密切相关。

They know what they are doing, who they are seeing and what they are going to say to you long before you seen them come around the corner. It is this very normal, yet often overlooked, skill that gives them their masterly persona, and serene manner.
他们知道他们在做什么，他们在看谁，他们会对你说什么，早在你看到他们转过拐角之前。这是非常正常的，但经常被忽视，技能赋予了他们精湛的人格和安详的态度。

If you consider yourself disorganised commit to changing this immediately. Purchase a diary or use the calendar function on your smartphone. Start planning your days and make a game of stacking things up.
如果你认为自己没有条理，那就马上改变。购买一本日记或使用智能手机上的日历功能。开始计划你的每一天，做一个把东西堆起来的游戏。

Life moves fast so you need to take every opportunity you can to make an impact.
生活瞬息万变，所以你需要抓住每一个你能产生影响的机会。

Be a Man of Action because You are What You Do.
做一个实干家，因为你做什么就是什么。

All the theory and education is useless if we don’t act on it. The most successful men in the world are also the ones who have cultivated their action habit to a ridiculous degree.
如果我们不付诸行动，所有的理论和教育都是无用的。世界上最成功的人也是那些把自己的行动习惯养成到可笑程度的人。

Their processing of information is incredible because they have a way of jumping in with both feet. They have literally forced their minds to expand and now have no qualms about doing something out of their comfort zone.
他们对信息的处理是不可思议的，因为他们有一种全身心投入的方式。他们确实强迫自己的思想扩展，现在对做一些超出他们舒适区以外的事情毫无顾虑。

​In fact, most studies suggest that taking action and ‘acting as if’ is the single most important thing we can do for our self-confidence.
事实上，大多数研究表明，采取行动和“假装”是我们为自信所能做的最重要的一件事。

The takeaway? Anything you fear you must do. You must push through that initial discomfort to realise its unreality. Once you start to do this your personal growth really begins. For those who get his far, progress is usually rapid.
要点吗?任何你害怕的事你都必须去做。你必须克服最初的不适，意识到它的不现实。一旦你开始这样做，你的个人成长就真正开始了。对于那些成功的人来说，进步通常是很快的。

Bulletproof confidence
刀枪不入的信心

All the prior 9 steps to being a successful man culminates in bulletproof self-confidence.
成为成功人士之前的9个步骤的最终结果都是拥有无懈可击的自信。

When all the pieces fall into place you won’t hesitate to do something that would have stopped you in your tracks perhaps only weeks before.
当一切就绪，你就会毫不犹豫地去做一些可能几周前还会让你停下脚步的事情。

You will rarely experience negative emotions and when you do, you will stamp them out swiftly with unhesitating action.
你很少会经历负面情绪，当你遇到时，你会毫不犹豫地迅速消除它们。

Conclusion
总结

This is the path of mastery. This is the road of the successful man. How do you know when you are there? You will feel an overwhelming sense of gratitude.
这就是精通之路。这是成功人士的道路。你怎么知道你在那里? 你会感到一种难以抗拒的感激之情。

Then it really begins.
然后才真正开始。

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