We'd like to share some of the positive meaning love has for us. Love means that I know the person I love. I'm aware of the many sides of the other person-not just the beautiful side but also the limitatins, inconsistencies and faults. I have an awareness of the other's feelling and thoughts, and I experience something of the core of that person. I can penetrate social masks and rols and se the other person on a deeper level. Love means that I care about the welfare of the person Ilove . To the extent that it is genuine, my caring frees both of us. If I care about you, I'm concerned about oyur growth, and Ihope you will become all that you cna become. Consquently, I don't put up obstacles to what you do that enhances you as a person, even though it may rsult in my discomfort at times. Love means having respect ofr the dignity of the person I love. If I love you, I can see yo as a sepatate person, with your own values and thoughts and feelings, and Iod not insist that you surrender your identity to match an image of what I expect you to be for me. I can allow and encourage you to stand alone and to be who you are. and I avoid treating you as an object or using you primarily to satisfy my own nees. Love means having a reonsibility toward the person I love. If I love you, I respond to most of your major needs as a person. This reposibility does not include my doing for you what you are capable fo doing for yousrself; nor does it mean that I run your life for you. It does means acknowledging that what I do affects you, so that I am directly involved in your happiness and our suffering. A love does have the capacity to hurt or ignore the loved one, and in this sense we see that love involves an acceptance of some responsiblitiesfor the impact my way of being has on you. Love means making a commitment to the person I love. This commitment does not mean surrendering our total selves to each other; nor does it imply that the relationship is necessarily pemanent. It does involve a willingness to stay with each other in times of pain, struggle, and despair, as well as in times of calm and enjoyment. Love mens trusting the person I love. If I love you, Itrust that you will accept my love and that you won't deliberately hurt me. I trust that you wil find me attrative, and that you won't abanon me; Itrust the mutual nature of our love. If we trust each other,we are willing to be open to each other and reveal our true selves. Love means can tolerate impefection. In a love elationship there are times when I am bored, times when I may feel like giving up, times of real strain, and times I feel I cna't move forward. Authentic love does not imply enduring happines. I can stay during rough times, however, because I can remember waht we had together in the past, adn I can picture what we will have together in our future if we care enough to face our problems and wod them through. We agree with the idea that love is a spirit that changes life. Love is a way of life that is creative and that transforms. However, love is not reserved for a perfect world. Love is meant for our imperfect world where things go wrong, Love is meant to ve a spirit that works in painful situations . Love is meant to bring meaning into life where nonsense appears to rule. In other words, love comes into an imperfect world to make it possible to live. Love is open. If Ilove you, I encourage o to reach out and develop other relationships. Although our love for each other and our commitment to each othe might prohibit certain actions on our parts, we are not totally and exclusively married to each other. It is a flase love that cements one person to another in such a way that he or she is not given room to grow. Love is selfish. I can only love you if I genuinely love, value, appreciate, and respect myself. If I am empty, then all I can give you is my emptiness. If I feel that I'm completeand worthewhile in myself, then I'm alble to give you out of my fullness. One of the best ways for me to give you love is by fully enjoying myself with you. Love involves seeing the potential within the person we love. In my lov eof r another, I view her or him as the person she or he can become, while still aepting who and what the person is now. By taking people as they are, we make them worse, but by treating them as if they aleady were what they outht to be,we help make them better. To sum it up, maturelove is union under the condition of preserving one's individuality. In love, two beings become one and yt remain two. word: 901
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