How feedback work for your improvement

Why

      generally feedback is the perspective from others for some event.

     In China there is story,some king ask some blind people to touch the elephant and then ask them what do you think the animal like.

     One said it's feels like a pillar,some said it's like a wall,some said it's like a rope.So no one actually know what the elephant really are.

     But all of them are partly right,some part of elephant is like a pillar.But it's just one aspect.If we really need to know something,We need to know all the aspect.

     In this world,we have our eye in front of our head,so we can't see what happened behind us.So we need to ask people,what they got.

     What we observe is base on (Where/location,What/culture,When/timing,Who/character,How/procedure).But everyone has limitation,everyone just have two eyes in the front.

     We need to know what other people observed.

But First we need to build trust, their information has to be real,otherwise it would misleading.Unless they trust you,they would be honest.

How to build trust?We need to trust others first,and understand their background and forgive their flaw.They may cheat you on some reason.

Help them with your best,then we can build trust.If you're cheated, ask the reason gently.If there is no good reason,don't try to build trust connection before you find the real reason.

     We also need to know how others feel.Same thing,different feeling.Like the beef to Indian and muslims.People have different feeling because of different culture and experience.

     Some behaviour may hurt others,but we don't even know.We need to be sensitive and ask.Make sure the relationship is honest and transparent.

 

When

       when we talk about feedback,we need to consider about the environment and the event we want to talk.Generally we need do a secure check.Make sure they are comfortable enough to talk about that event.

       Sometimes people may feel stressed to give or take any feedback.More comfortable,more output.

 

Who

        Everyone have different perspective.The witness has more context,but you can describe the scenario to others.Then you need to make sure you're objective.

         If you want to improve in some certain aspect then ask the expert in that domain.Maybe not expert,just any people who want to help maybe helpful.

         I would talk later,why it's maybe.

 

What

         Any comment can be feedback,"good","not bad".But different people have different criteria.So you need to figure out,does "fine" means "it's just what I like" or "Actually it's a totally disaster,I just try to be nice."So come back to the formal stuff we talked about,we need to be honest.Don't hide the feeling from someone we love,we trust,this would hurt our trust.So we need to figure out the real meaning of the comment.

 

How

          Fix it to the better way.I don't think there are a right thing without constraint.1 + 1 = 2,but it could also be 10 (binary 2).So we need to constraint the context/background.

           Like walking on a rope,we need to stand straight,but what if we tilt right?then we need to tilt a little left.vice versa.

           Ask the expert and we also need to make sure what's right,if different people tell you totally different things to do how to make the decision?

           It's really hard.I would tell you in another post.

           The important thing is when they are in the same align,trust them and do what they ask.

           Never give up to your goal,make sure it's justice and keep it up,you will achieve it.