TED听力拓展1| 恋爱脑也有哲学依据

打算开一个新坑，就是利用午后时间听TED演讲，锻炼自己的听力口语，扩展一些纯技术之外的知识面。

2023-02-26 ~~ 02-27

恋爱脑也有哲学依据-Why do we love? A philosophical inquiry：

• 链接1-B站，有中英文字幕，可以选择单语，方便
• 链接2-ted官网，这个可以直接拿到演讲稿全文以及翻译，真太棒了。

• 第一遍：不开弹幕，不开字幕，不按暂停。

  开头听了个大概，共五个part，每个小标题都挺清楚了（因为有提示），第一个大概讲的是神将人类劈成两半的故事，恋爱使人完整，第二个是恋爱使人拥有孩子？其中内容都没怎么懂，第三个是恋爱使人摆脱孤独，大致听懂了一点点，第四个是东方佛学的观点，无欲无求吧应该，具体句子听的效果不好。第五个是恋爱使人beyond himself of herself。

• 第二遍：开英语字幕，不按暂停。

  看到了很多根本不熟悉的词汇，大致理解了每个小论点的意思，原来第二个是德国哲学家的性爱思想，第三个则是精神和肉体双方面的需要，第四个还讲了王熙凤和贾瑞的故事，但是词汇的缺乏还是让人感觉有点磕绊。第五部分升华的很好啊，没有什么生词其实。

• 第三遍：开双语字幕，按暂停，有回退，整理词汇。（汉语词义后续加上的）

  • intoxicating 令人陶醉的

  • emotional wringer 情绪激动者 ，winger是令人心里交困的事

  • intriguing 有趣的

  • disguise 假扮

  • voluptuous illusion 淫荡的幻觉

  • sorely 严重地

  • consummated 完婚，同房，使完美

  • and the love fusion we seek is consummated in our children.

  • tormented 使备受折磨

  • perpetuating the cycle of human drudgery

    perpetuating 使永久化

    drudgery 苦工 ; 单调乏味的苦差事 ;

  • ecstasy of passionate love 热恋的狂喜

    ecstasy 摇头丸 ; 狂喜 ; 入迷 ; 陶醉 ; 迷幻药

  • intimacy 亲密

  • love is a misleading affliction 爱是一种误导性的痛苦

    affliction 折磨

  • Nirvana 湼盘(超脱一切烦恼的境界)

  • cravings 强烈的愿望

  • suffering 痛苦

  • extinguishing 熄灭 the fire of desire 消除杂欲

  • Dream of the Red Chamber 红楼梦

  • subplot 次要情节

  • Taoist 道士

  • humiliates 羞辱

  • erotic 性欲的

  • captivating 迷人的;有魅力的;有吸引力的

    v.迷住;使着迷

  • we are tempted to make it our only reason for bing

  • authentically 真实地

  • emotional rollercoaster ride情绪上坎坷的旅途

  • scary and exhilarating

2-27进行了第四遍第五遍。

• 第四遍：打算隔一段时间再进行。开弹幕开字幕，比照英文演讲稿跟着默读，补充一些第三遍没注意到的词汇。

  Ah, romantic love - beautiful and intoxicating, heartbreaking and soul-crushing, often all at the same time. Why do we choose to put ourselves through its emotional wringer? Does love make our lives meaningful, or is it an escape from our loneliness and suffering? Is love a disguise for our sexual desire, or a trick of biology to make us procreate? Is it all we need? Do we need it at all? If romantic love has a purpose, neither science nor psychology has discovered it yet. But over the course of history, some of our most respected philosophers have put forward some intriguing theories. Love makes us whole, again. The ancient Greek philosopher Plato explored the idea that we love in order to become complete. In his "Symposium", he wrote about a dinner party, at which Aristophanes, a comic playwright, regales the guests with the following story: humans were once creatures with four arms, four legs, and two faces. One day, they angered the gods, and Zeus sliced them all in two. Since then, every person has been missing half of him or herself. Love is the longing to find a soulmate who'll make us feel whole again, or, at least, that's what Plato believed a drunken comedian would say at a party. Love tricks us into having babies. Much, much later, German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer maintained that love based in sexual desire was a voluptuous illusion. He suggested that we love because our desires lead us to believe that another person will make us happy, but we are sorely mistaken. Nature is tricking us into procreating, and the loving fusion we seek is consummated in our children. When our sexual desires are satisfied, we are thrown back into our tormented existences, and we succeed only in maintaining the species and perpetuating the cycle of human drudgery. Sounds like somebody needs a hug. Love is escape from our loneliness. According to the Nobel Prize-winning British philosopher Bertrand Russell, we love in order to quench our physical and psychological desires. Humans are designed to procreate, but without the ecstasy of passionate love, sex is unsatisfying. Our fear of the cold, cruel world tempts us to build hard shells to protect and isolate ourselves. Love's delight, intimacy, and warmth helps us overcome our fear of the world, escape our lonely shells, and engage more abundantly in life. Love enriches our whole being, making it the best thing in life. Love is a misleading affliction. Siddhārtha Gautama, who became known as the Buddha, or the Enlightened One, probably would have had some interesting arguments with Russell. Buddha proposed that we love because we are trying to satisfy our base desires. Yet, our passionate cravings are defects, and attachments, even romantic love, are a great source of suffering. Luckily, Buddha discovered the eight-fold path, a sort of program for extinguishing the fires of desire so that we can reach Nirvana, an enlightened state of peace, clarity, wisdom, and compassion. The novelist Cao Xueqin illustrated this Buddhist sentiment that romantic love is folly in one of China's greatest classical novels, "Dream of the Red Chamber." In a subplot, Jia Rui falls in love with Xi-feng who tricks and humiliates him. Conflicting emotions of love and hate tear him apart, so a Taoist gives him a magic mirror that can cure him as long as he doesn't look at the front of it. But of course, he looks at the front of it. He sees Xi-feng. His soul enters the mirror and he is dragged away in iron chains to die. Not all Buddhists think this way about romantic and erotic love, but the moral of this story is that such attachments spell tragedy, and should, along with magic mirrors, be avoided. Love lets us reach beyond ourselves. Let's end on a slightly more positive note. The French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir proposed that love is the desire to integrate with another and that it infuses our lives with meaning. However, she was less concerned with why we love and more interested in how we can love better. She saw that the problem with traditional romantic love is it can be so captivating, that we are tempted to make it our only reason for being. Yet, dependence on another to justify our existence easily leads to boredom and power games. To avoid this trap, Beauvoir advised loving authentically, which is more like a great friendship. Lovers support each other in discovering themselves, reaching beyond themselves, and enriching their lives and the world together. Though we might never know why we fall in love, we can be certain that it will be an emotional rollercoaster ride. It's scary and exhilarating. It makes us suffer and makes us soar. Maybe we lose ourselves. Maybe we find ourselves. It might be heartbreaking, or it might just be the best thing in life. Will you dare to find out?

  上面这段英语也不难，所以不放中文了。

• 第五遍：关弹幕，尽量闭眼听。感觉差不多，比第一遍好很多很多，难点是人名专业术语，以及一些连读，人名和动词之间的连接通常会让后面这个动词听不清。

• 还想再跟读一遍的，明早找个地方读一下吧。