刚才回头看了一下之前的一篇博文：消费与工作

又让自己清醒了一下，否则很容易会被裹挟在消费陷阱中，依靠自己的消费来彰显自己。

其实很没必要。真正的朋友之间的吸引，靠的不是这个，是这个人的思想、品质。是和他/她在一起开心舒适。

在消费社会，总是不可避免的会受到影响，其他人住的大房子，穿的新衣服，去哪里玩，感觉都是明码标价似的。

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（转）很多时候，我们买并不是因为我们需要。我们迫切地想通过物质，向外界宣示我们的身份以及阶层。本该为我们服务的物质，让我们在它们面前逐渐失去了抵抗力，它们一步步成为了主宰我们的主人。

社会学家让·鲍德里亚说过，“当下我们消费的目的不再是生存，而是欲望；我们通过消费来彰显自己的品味，通过所消费的符号来标记自己所归属的阶级。”

拥有什么样的实力，就该过什么样的生活。被欲望控制，会走向深渊，控制欲望，才会带来进步。当我们想过一种不太符合自己的生活时，我们应该问自己一句：你配么？不配，又想过。那就只能努力提高自己的实力，让自己与这样的生活匹配。否则，别无他法。

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在莎士比亚的作品中，被影响常与一种非理性的奴性联系在一起，而王尔德在作品《道林·格雷的画像》中提出的观点则更加发人深省。小说中毫无责任感可言的影响者亨利勋爵，蛊惑原本人美心善的主人公道林转投“错误而极具迷惑性的享乐主义理论”的怀抱，并亲口承认，“所有的影响都是不道德的……对一个人施加影响，就是把自己的灵魂强加到他身上。他不再思考自己的思想，不再燃烧自己的激情。他的美德对他来说并不真实。他的罪，即便有罪，也是借来的。”在王尔德的小说中，被影响就是被支配，就是个性的缺失。

同时，《道林·格雷的画像》也引发我们深思，愈发无孔不入的影响力何以生出愈发普遍的不真实感？亨利勋爵将受影响的人形容为不再拥有真实身份的人，他们的行事动机不再真实自然，因为皆由别人发起而来。但影响者和被影响者之间的紧密互动也意味着，某种程度上双方均已失却真实。受影响的人燃烧的是他人的激情，而影响者的真实性也存疑。理论上，一个受追捧的滑板爱好者有可能在热爱某一滑板品牌的同时主动为其打广告，但实际上，若仅存在金钱动机，真正的热情必然受损害。可以说，影响者也影响了他们自己。

如此，我们未来面临的挑战，当是叫板影响力经济中固有的不真实性和怀疑论，同时保持开放性，拥抱积极的影响，迎接更好的改变。

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原文标题：被“人间种草机”左右的人生：消费时代，我们既不自主，又不独立
  • 原作者名：
    Laurence Scott
  • 转载来源：
    译言（微信公众号ID：yeeyancom）

A History of the Influencer, from Shakespeare to Instagram

For centuries, influencers have been forcing us to admit an uncomfortable truth: we are neither entirely self-determining nor self-contained.

He compares the world of Instagram and Popes with the work of Shakespeare and Oscar Wilde. In the process he highlights the ambiguity associated with influence and the various agents and agendas attached to it. For a different perspective, Sophie Elmhirst looks at the industry built around social media influencers and the push for authentity, while Rosie Spinks believes that we are coming to the end of the self-made influencers and wonders if instead we will have a slacker revival.

 

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你真的不必去在意。欲望无穷，上学的时候，觉得能买一双安踏的鞋就很开心了，后来呢，品牌那么多。

真的不要把自己宝贵的生命浪费在这个追逐上。

适当就行。

你要抓住生活的重心。

现阶段就是自己的工作做好，孩子的学习管好，身体保养好。

前几天给孩子买几件衣服，孩子长个，一换季，里里外外都得买，在网上选来选去，翻来覆去的，怕自己买贵了吃亏似的，真是花了好多时间。

其实时间更贵啊。以后就看着买个比较好的就行哈。

好的身体是一切的基础。这个时间用来练练腰，做做卷腹，出出汗多好。读两页书也是极好的。

然后就是上班抓紧工作。按计划进行。

多汇报。

 后续有空看：

Some of this influence is beneficial. Yet our online time can also be very distracting, or worse still, a corrosive influence. Some troubling social media feeds encourage vulnerable people to contemplate self-harm and even suicide, while other feeds are run by repressive foreign regimes working to undermine trust in democratic institutions.

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Of course, negative influences aren’t new. As a New Yorker piece recently pointed out, “Influence was worrisome long before it was digital” (Laurence Scott, “A History of the Influencer, from Shakespeare to Instagram,” April 21, 2019).

Whether dispersed digitally or otherwise, adverse influences need to be counteracted, and we can each play a role in accomplishing this. For instance, when tempted to be influenced by today’s intense political, religious, and gender polarization, we can dial down animosity by dialing up the impartiality of our love. Referring to the timeless commandment to love our neighbor as ourselves, Jesus notably put no limit on who qualifies as that neighbor. He also pinpointed the need to “love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you” (Matthew 5:44). 

This guidance goes well beyond managing our outward behavior, as vital as that is. The practice of Christian Science reveals how our unseen thinking has an influence on others, for better or for worse. Like a stone thrown into water, the thoughts we harbor create ripples, which are often felt by others even if these thoughts are not expressed in words or actions. We recognize this most keenly in the impact our changing moods can have on friends and family. But humanity is another family we belong to, and depending on our mental standpoint, we pour into the ocean of thoughts that make up universal human consciousness anything from evil thinking that pollutes to spiritual thought that helps purify.

So thoughts are influencers, and we love our neighbors near and far by watching what kind of thinking we entertain. In particular, we can watch for thoughts from the divine Mind, God. They come to us through Christ, which Christian Science reveals as the true idea of God voicing to us a message of our true spiritual goodness as God’s creation. This identity is the Christ-idea, the man made in God’s image, as declared in the Hebrew Scriptures, which Jesus was familiar with. As this divine image, we are never weak and vulnerable but reflect a strength that is incorruptible, not prone to manipulation. The influence of recognizing the truth of this Christ-idea was illustrated by the impact it had on Jesus’ neighbors. Healing and character transformation resulted, indicating the potential for our understanding of this same idea to be an influence for good today. 

The Christ-idea is an influencer everyone needs to be increasingly touched by

We might feel we’re just taking baby steps in understanding this healing idea of our true identity. Yet the willingness to seek this understanding is invaluable. The Christ-idea is an influencer everyone needs to be increasingly touched by; it heals and reforms. 

And we can be transformed, too, as we care in this way. Every glimpse of God’s all-embracing influence that throws spiritual light on the lives of others is also bringing to light the true nature of the glimpser, because we are all reflections of the one Mind. Seeing this exposes the vacuity of the opposite assumption that we’re governed by a mentality that perceives everything as material and mortal. As Jesus’ healings proved, limitations such as disease and despair that seem so real to this mortal mind yield to the understanding of divine Love’s infinite influence, bringing to light a spiritual harmony forever known to God and always available to all of us. 

The mortal mentality that hides this harmony for a season is a would-be influencer that we need to diligently guard against by watching for thoughts that lead us away from God’s love, distract us from expressing that love, or even persuade us we are sick, sinful, or stuck in an inescapable victimhood. Such thoughts are misleading or even malevolent mental imposters that we recognize as such when we perceive our real being as divine Mind’s reflection. Holding to this true perception, we more readily identify and see through mortal mind’s claim to be a cause or to have an effect. Then divine reality is uncovered in individual healing.

There’s also a wider impact as we conscientiously yield to the one Mind, as