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1.”Betty, what's the danger in letting me matter to you?“

”I am not sure. It feels scary, like I'll need you too much. I'm not sure you'll be there for me. I'm going to have to leave California in a year, remember?"

“A year's a long time. So you avoid(躲避） me now because you won't always have me?” “I know it doesn't make sense. But I do the same thing with California. I like New York and I don't want to like California. I'm afraid that, if I form friends here and start to like it, I might not want to leave. The other thing is that I start to feel ‘Why bother?’ I'm here for such a short time. Who wants temporary friendships?”

“The problem with that attitude is you end up with an unpeopled life. Maybe that's part of the reason you feel empty inside. One way or another, every relationship must end. There's no such thing as a lifetime guarantee. It's like refusing to enjoy watching the sun rise because you hate to see it set.”

“It sounds crazy when you put it like that, but that's what I do. When I meet a new person whom I like, I start right away to imagine（想象） what it will be like to say goodbye to them...”

2.I believe that we may lost a lot of happyness if we always feel scared （害怕） 3

.No matter（不管怎么样） what label is thrown（贴上） your way, only you can define yourself.